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Note From Pat Carrington
Can you use EFT on the spot
This sounds impossible doesn't it? Especially if someone is unreasonably angry and you are directly in the line of fire. But why should EFT be forgotten in such situations? Today I'm going to show you a remarkable EFT buffering method that you can rehearse beforehand and use when the actual situation happens. Let's look first at the objections people bring up when I suggest this strategy.
Objection 1. "If I'm tapping in front of the person who's angry at me, I'll look ridiculous because they won't know what I'm doing. If the person does know EFT then it will infuriate them even more!"
Objection 2. "How can I possibly have the presence of mind under those circumstances to think of proper setup phrases or reminder phrases? I can't imagine being able to think clearly under those circumstances except to grasp for ways of immediately defending myself."
Objection 3. "I can't imagine a step by step process like EFT doing a bit of good during an urgent confrontation."
I'm going to answer each of these objections.
Answer to objection #1 When you're in the actual confrontation, use only the karate chop spot on the side of your hand, none of the other tapping spots. You are not to tap conspicuously on the karate chop spot but merely place one or more fingers on the karate chop spot (between the base knuckle of the little finger and your wrist bone) and squeeze your fingers against the side of your hand, at intervals. This will serve very well in place of tapping and at the same time, as you press hard with one or two fingers into the side of your hand with silent squeezes, this may give you the satisfaction of secretly expressing your own anger at the other person and you may even feel as though you were defending yourself.
Answer to objection #2 I will show you a method you can use as a substitute for the regular setup and reminder phrases of EFT under these circumstances which can be dramatically effective. I describe it below.
Answer to objection #3 The method I'm going to show you blots out the sound of the other person's voice in your mind and interrupts any pattern of fearfulness or helplessness you may be feeling. It serves as a dramatic "pattern interruption" and can switch things around for you completely.
The Method This is one of the most effective ways I know to "take the charge off" a verbal attack made against you, whether that attack is a remembered one, or one that is occurring right now , or is an anticipated attack. If you intend to use this form of mental EFT when the other person is busy hurling epithets at you, you will need to prepare for it in advance. If you are simply clearing up residual emotional distress about a past encounter that was distressing, this can be handled by using this technique with that memory.
How to clear up distress from the past Bring to mind a past episode where a particular person has attacked you verbally if their attack is still rankling in your mind and upsetting you. This session need not involve a person you know well. Perhaps you had an unpleasant confrontation with an acquaintance or stranger that is still rankling within you. Get a piece of paper, sit down, and write down the exact words they hurled against you as accurately as you can remember them. Or, if you fear an upcoming encounter, write down the exact words you imagine the person might say to you and make these words be the worst possible. If you are prepared for the worst whatever they say will not hurt much or at all. Write down everything that this person said which you can recall, or everything you can imagine someone saying in the future. If you are dealing with a past issue, try to recall those words that that they said to you that really hurt you at the time, the ones that may have infuriated you or the ones which you can't get out of your mind. Now, reading from this paper, begin singing (yes, singing!) the words they directed at you as though you were hearing them sung as the libretto of an opera. Make this "libretto" as exaggerated and "tragic" and forceful as you possibly can. It should be a wild parody of an operatic scene. Quite often when I use this technique with a client, I myself sing the exaggerated libretto to them. This is really something to hear because I can't keep a tune very well, but actually being occasionally out of tune only serves to make the technique even more effective. The shrieks and gestures and the off key notes make this such an effective parody of the attack that it becomes easy for the client to create a ridiculous mental image of their opponent's words, sung as though in an opera. When you can "hear" that singing in your mind, it will be very difficult for you to keep from bursting into laughter. Even the most serious client of mine has at least smiled faintly when they imagine it because it's really comical to hear the words you took so seriously being played back to you in this fashion! It makes the attacker look ridiculous, and as soon as they do -- presto! Their words just don't have the same power over you. The spell has been broken. Here's an example. Suppose someone important to you screams at you, "You're so selfish!" Singing this phrase in your mind (or if you are a therapist singing it to a client and then having them imagine it in their own mind) it might come out something like, "You are soooooooooo (rising to a high note) self-ish!!! So Selfish! So Selfish! So Selfish! (series of descending notes). I can't s-t-a-n-d (long drawn out note) it! So Selfish! So Selfish! (as a series of quick repeats).etc. When you listen to this in your mind you will find it difficult not to enjoy the ridiculous sound of the person who is accusing you (or has accused you in the past). It's fun! EFT is extremely important here because it can install this libretto as an auditory image that you can recall any time that your verbal attacker starts up again. The EFT statement I use to help my clients install the libretto as a useful auditory image goes something like this: Even though (name of person) yells at me (accuses me etc.), I choose to hear them singing their words as in an opera whenever they start in! This EFT statement can work wonders to create an automatic habit of turning your accuser’s voice into an "operatic joke" each time they commence their unpleasant attack. It can protect you from much distress and allow you to counter any accusations much more effectively because they will no longer be distressing. Summary ● When you have had an exceptionally unpleasant encounter with someone or you anticipate having one, write down the exact words they used (or you expect them to use) in a verbal attack against you, as accurately as you can. ● Say these words out loud to yourself as though you were singing them in the libretto of an opera, i.e. sing them in as exaggerated and forceful a manner as possible ● Install this libretto as an auditory image by tapping using the EFT Choice described above, and then hear them singing their words in an exaggerated way in your imagination
● Run this auditory
image in your mind whenever the person confronts you in the future. With all good wishes for an easy, comfortable, constructive encounter with whomever you use this with, Pat p.s. This past Sunday's May 15th teleseminar with musician-healer Mark Romero has been one of the most successful telecasts I have ever hosted. I have been receiving rave reviews from those who attended it, and because of this I AM CHANGING MY PLANS. Instead of taking the replay down at the end of 72 hours as planned, I am going to make it downloadable free for you for another two weeks so that you can have a chance to hear this remarkable teleclass. Go to: http://www.patclass.com
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