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Sit down with pen and paper. In a column on the left-hand side of the page, write down all the negative reactions that these events have created in you.

Write exhaustively.  Leave nothing out.  Keep adding to your list if necessary.  Be ruthlessly honest with yourself.  Don't just include the obvious reactions that you have had such as for example developing fibromyalgia, or having extreme tension, or feeling a sense of hopelessness etc. but also go for the subtler and often even more important categories of response such as possibly :

–– a deep distrust of people engendered by these events

–– intense resentment

— despair and hopelessness

— haunting fears

— rage

— etc.

Your list should be uncensored.  Confront your feelings squarely head-on.  Don't water down concepts or words. Don't be polite.  Open up and say clearly what you have needed to say (or to scream out) throughout all of this series of distressing events.

Write down all of your reactions one by one, under one another, in the left hand column of your page.  This can take up more than one page, so let the list be as long as you want.  Then proceed to the next task which is…

To make another column, this one on the right hand side of the page.  In it you are to write down the way you would WANT to feel about each single feeling you are working on if you had a magic wand that could transform your feelings in the left hand column into exactly the way you would IDEALLY like to feel instead.  These are your Desired Responses, and are written down in the right hand column.

Never mind whether you believe it will ever be possible to feel so positively given the difficulties of your background.  Just write down how you would LIKE TO FEEL, and write this statement directly opposite the negative reaction you don't want to have any more.  Many times your positive reactions will be the exact opposite of the negative state that you do not want, although this will not always be the case.

Let me give you some examples.

Suppose you have written down in the left hand column the negative reaction of "rage".  If so, in the right hand positive column you will write down the OPPOSITE reaction.  You might for example use one of the following phrases (or find one more appropriate for you) to describe the positive reaction that is the opposite (to you) of your rage.  Some possible opposites are:

Neutral about (whomever, or the circumstance)

Inwardly calm

At peace (or peaceful).

Calm and confident, etc.

Notice I didn't use any negative words when composing these opposites.  This is important.  You are not to say, for example, "no longer enraged" or use any other statement that involves an absence of something undesirable.  Repeating the negative emotion in the positive column, EVEN IF YOU SAY YOU DON'T WANT IT, only helps the negative emotion persist, for you will be repeatedly reminding yourself of it in this way.

After you have converted EACH of the negative responses into a correspondingly desirable positive response, you will be ready to apply EFT.

To do so, systematically address each negative entry and spend an entire EFT session, or perhaps several on it, tapping the issue down to a zero or one on the 1 to 10 point Intensity Scale.  It may take you days, weeks or months to handle all the negative reactions you have, considering the number of issues you will need to address, but persistence is the name of the game, and will pay off handsomely.

One excellent way to accomplish this is to make an EFT Choice out of each of the positive phrases, and combine this with your negative word or phrase to create an EFT set up phrase. In the example I just gave you might create the following set up phrase:

"Even though I feel enraged (furious, etc.) at (whomever), I choose to feel inwardly calm about what happened".

Here you would be applying the EFT Choices method.  If you don't know what this method is, the best way to learn about it is to read my Choices Manual, but you will find a summary of it here.

If you follow the above steps with persistence, and if possible have an experienced EFT practitioner guide you as you go through some of these painful memories, then there will indeed be something that EFT can do for you!

The adversities in your life have been many and your efforts to prevent them from undermining your life FROM HERE ON will demand much effort.  But the payoff can be tremendous this can be a chance to achieve a new beginning for your life.  Quite possibly by doing this you can attain a sense of well-being and peace that you have never known before, even before these mishaps occurred.  This often happens, and this possibility alone should encourage you to undertake a rigorous plan of action with respect to applying EFT to your multiple traumas.  You will, in effect, be making a decision to make EFT work for you DESPITE all the difficulties you have encountered. 

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