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Getting What We Want Gene is an EFT practitioner in Baltimore, MD, and author of numerous articles on EFT that appear in this newsletter and regularly on his website http://eftQandA.com. He can be e-mailed directly at eftqanda@gmail.com.
[Note:
This is article number one in a four part series on how to get what you
do want. In this article Gene looks at the first of the four steps to
using EFT to make serious changes in our lives.] EFT is a wonderful tool for helping us to make changes in our lives, from the small to the big. The amazing thing I have found in working with clients on these issues, though, is that whereas most clients know they want a change, they are not sure what that change is. They say: "I want a better job…or...I want a partner who I can spend the rest of my life with…or...I want to be healthier…or...I want more..."
So, I ask
them, "What does that wish look like? What type of job do you
want? What type of partner and relationship do you want? What do you
want your health to be like?" Being able to name what you want and being able to vision it clearly in the future is a special skill that can be learned and cultivated. It just happens to be a skill that most of us were never taught. Before we can start to working to change our lives to be the way we want (and to use EFT to clear the blocks that are preventing us from having this life) we need to know what it is we want. I have found working with clients that even if they don't know what they do want they can articulate in great detail what they don't want. Since coming up with a list of what we don't want is easy, we will start there. By doing this we will be laying the groundwork for clearly identifying what we do want. Doing this is very simple, but for this first step to be effective we must do it in a very detailed way. To explain this, let's look at an example. Let's consider wanting to make a job change. If the question is: "What don't you like about your present job?" it might be true to say "It's a lousy job!" but it is not going to very helpful in defining what you do want. Coming up with a detailed list of things you don't like about your current job might look like this: ▪ It sucks the life and vitality out of me ▪ I hate going to work ▪ My boss doesn’t appreciate me ▪ It is very boring ▪ I am not paid enough ▪ The hours are too long ▪ There is lot of unexpected overtime ▪ I don't get to see my family enough ▪ It is not creative This might seem like a very simple first step, but if we do it well it is going to set the stage for the next step very easily. It will only take a few minutes. Get out a notebook or a number of sheets of paper, one for each area of your life you would like to change. Across the top of the piece of paper put a title for the area of your life you would like to see change (e.g.: health, relationships, family, job, car I drive, home, education, spiritual growth). Draw a line down the middle of the page creating two columns. In the left hand column write in great detail everything about this area of your life you don't like. Between each detail skip a line or two. While doing this step it is better to be too detailed than not detailed enough. Some people find this step very easy. Complaining comes as second nature. For others this might be hard. We are told not to be complainers and to shut up and just “take it”. I would agree it is not good to obsess about what we don't like about our lives, but if we don't know what we don't want it is going to be hard to know what we do want. If you struggle with this step, give yourself permission to look at this darker side of yourself. Tapping for this (by going from tapping spot to tapping spot as you talk) might look like: I am not a complainer...and I don't want to be seen as a complainer...I know that there are many blessings in my life...I am thankful for these blessings...but I know that I can have more and I deserve more...in order to move down this path to get closer to what I want I need to name what I don't want...for this short period of time I give myself permission to name the things I don't like about my life...I know I am not going to harp on these things... this is just a step in getting closer to the life I want...I am thankful I have the chance to consider these changes. In step two of this process (the next article in this series) we are going to look at how we can transform these negative details, our complaints, into the details of what we would like to see come into our lives. Here is an outline of the process of getting what we want in our lives: ▪ First know what you don't want (this step) ▪ Then know what you do want (next step) ▪ Get clear of emotional blocks (coming soon) ▪ Take inspired action (coming soon)
Watch what you do want
come into your life (soon after that). _________________________________________________________________________________ Many descriptions of new ways to use EFT appear in Dr. Carrington’s book, Multiply the Power of EFT: 52 New Ways To Use EFT That Most People Don’t Know About, see http://www.MasteringEFT.com To learn more about Dr. Carrington’s set of training CDs, EFT Choices in Action, see http://www.MasteringEFT.com THE EFT CHOICES MANUAL: Introducing the Positive in EFT is the definitive book on Dr. Carrington’s EFT Choices Method. For information, or to purchase go to: http://www.MasteringEFT.com To forward a copy of this article to a friend CLICK HERE or send this page by email attachment.
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09/05/08 |
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