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EFT for Sleep Issues
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When Single Parenting Worries Keep You Awake Page 2
By Dr. Patricia Carrington
Buy a
notebook that you designate as being your "Good Mothering"
notebook. Every evening before retiring to bed, open a fresh page in that
notebook and write as a heading on the page: "My Five Successes Of The
Day As a Mother"
Then write
down 5 things you did that day in relation to your children that you FEEL
GOOD ABOUT DOING, things that you approve of yourself for having done. These
can be the same things you have written down the day before if you can't
think of any new ones. They can be acknowledgements for routine tasks that
you do for your children which you are really satisfied that you do well --
or perhaps moments when you connected with one of them in a special way over
some seemingly small matter, but which allowed the two of you to be together
in a meaningful way -- laughing together, participating together in solving a
problem, joining in a family ritual with gusto –– whatever it was
that added togetherness to your lives.
When you
have at least 5 "good mother" things written down on your page (you
are allowed more if you get enthusiastic and can't stop writing!) then tap
using the following or similar setup phrase:
"Even
though I'm not perfect as a mother, I choose to remember these incidents with
real satisfaction.” (You are referring to the incidents written
down on the page)
Now do the
Choices Trio using the above phrase, this way.
First
complete one round of EFT using the NEGATIVE portion of the Reminder Phrase
at each acupoint, e.g. "I'm not perfect as a mother".
Next…
do one complete round of EFT using the POSITIVE portion of the Reminder
Phrase only at each acupoint, e.g. “I choose to remember these
incidents with real satisfaction.”
Then
follow with the third part of the Choices Trio (the reason we call it a
"Trio") in which the instructions are to ALTERNATE negative and
positive phrases at alternate tapping points (always ending up each round
with the positive phrase, even if you have to add an additional acupoint by
beginning to start the sequence over again). For example, in the above case
you would start with the negative phrase, "I'm not a perfect
mother", and at the next tapping point say the positive phrase, "I
choose to remember these incidents with real satisfaction,” then
the negative phrase again at the next acupoint, and so on for the entire EFT
sequence.
If you do
this, you may be surprised how, after you've finished, negative thoughts and
worries will be AUTOMATICALLY followed by positive memories of times when you
have provided very good mothering for your children. The Choices Trio will
have linked a positive thought to a negative thought, so that more and more
often the negative thought will lead you directly to much more positive
thoughts! (for more instructions on using the Choices Trio in this matter,
see Chapter 3 of the Choices Manual)
Now for
the application of this process to your sleep disturbance. Notice that you
will have been writing down your 5 mothering successes of the day, and using
EFT to link positive to formerly negative thoughts –– shortly
before going to bed.
My guess
is that if you do this, the nature of your intruding thoughts when getting
into bed and turning out the light will now have changed from predominantly
negative ones to more positive and constructive ones. You may no longer feel
it necessary to solve problems as you lie in bed ready to go to sleep,
but instead may just drift off peacefully, feeling secure in the value of
your own efforts as a mother.
However,
old habits sometimes die hard, as they say -- and you may have to employ
other EFT strategies as well to break the problem-solving habit upon getting
into bed. Read my article on ‘How to Get to Sleep Easily with
EFT,” for more suggestions.
Finally,
if none of these tactics have worked for you, you might then profit greatly
by going back in your memory and seeing when it was that your sleep
difficulties began. Then try to remember what happened to you at that time in
your life — the likelihood is that there was something traumatic event
that triggered this wakeful habit, and tapping on that trauma can be the key
to resolving the entire sleep problem— I have seen this happen many
times with clients. The effect of clearing the original cause can be a
complete cessation of a sleep disturbance.
EFT
Master, Dr. Patricia Carrington
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